I don't really want to be negative through all of this though, because I'm in an essentially good mood.
So I read a blog on "The Top 100 Reasons Not to Have Kids (and Remain Childfree)". Now I'm one of those odd people who have my biological clock yelling at me but has kept my answer at a firm "No". Not because I'm waiting or because I'm worried about my figure or some other reason, but because I'm selfish and have too high of an expectation for what raising another human being into maturity should be. I've done a bit of childcare with essentially all ages from two week old tiny babies full time for a week and a half straight, to practically adults. It isn't easy by any stretch of the imagination, but a good upbringing and treating the tiny little pink squirming thing you're holding like a tiny human will make it all much easier. This blog was chalk full of "If you don't have a kid, you can still have a social life and be interesting to your friends."
That, while important, really isn't a good reason to make a serious life decision off of. Just like (and I joke about this myself) having a kid for something to dress up in baby clothes is also a bad idea. Most of their reasons had everything to do with an unrealistic view of what child-rearing is. They mentioned "Being disappointed on Mother's or Father's day." or "attending boring children's soccer games and birthday parties" or being "saddled with raising grandchildren because your teen child gets pregnant (or gets someone pregnant)"
Part of me is horribly offended that those are considered reasons for any person to regret another living being, and the other part is happy that the people who feel that way aren't responsible for anyone but themselves. That view on parenthood is nearly as bad as society's view on marriage being a ball and chain or some sort of horrible fate worse than death. I was disgusted more than once while reading the list they had written up, and that's not because of the same points that they had stated in multiple different ways.
I give serious kudos to someone who is willing and able to live a child-free lifestyle when they feel it is right for them. We're overpopulating as it is and the best way to fix it is to start in our own homes (No I don't mean that you should go on a killing spree of your family members). If something crazy happens, or I make a mistake/take a calculated risk and end up carrying a sexually transmitted parasite, then I won't be bitching about the wrinkles I'll be getting faster than my child-free friends. I won't be complaining about spending time and giving my offspring attention. I will be actively loving the human being that I brought into the world and doing all that I can to develop their personality in it's early stages so that they have a chance in what this planet is coming to. Some people's kids...
Stuffed animal pile: I love me some fuzzy snuggle-able stuffed friends. I've learned that every year, the day after Valentines Day, Walmart has a 50% off sale on their holiday items. This means that I can get adorable stuffed animals half off. So both this year and last year I've picked out my favorites and Travis got them for me as a late V Day present. I'm hoping to collect enough that I can make a suitable sized pile to have friends enjoy too... I'm working on it... and I have to say it's a fun journey.
I'm getting tired so manipulation will just be left for another day... I just got a slimy feeling from someone trying to be affectionate online who I haven't given permission to because he feels that it is acceptable.
Bleh...
Next week will be full of cookies and mint and scrambled last minute preparation for what should be a fantastic weekend. Now my uterus needs to work with me as well >.>.. *glares at stomach type area*
~Naomi Marie
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